Don’t get me wrong, I love working with my male clients. But- women have a special place in my heart.

There are so many issues that are “women’s” issues.  Not to say that men never feel similar ways, but they are – different. I am not an expert at men. They are often a mystery to me. However, I do understand women entrepreneurs.

At one time I thought all the issues I had were unique to me. I realized that many, many women felt the same way and they could understand and empathize as well. What a gift.

There are some common things that block women from being a strong leader of their businesses and as a result, being wildly successful! Have you ever felt any of these ways?

1. Self-doubt that makes you either freeze or make really poor decisions.

Not being sure about something is not the same as self-doubt, which is all about you and your ability, your skill or your basic worthiness.

2. Afraid to take risks in your business. You don’t want to get more into debt or are unsure of being able to handle whatever it is. Without taking risks you stay stagnant and then wonder why your business isn’t growing.

3. You become emotionally attached to doing what you love and your identity is tied up with your profession. Instead you need to identify as a business owner first and then do whatever it takes to get yourself and your business strong.

In order to feel highly confident, take risks to shift and change and to wear the hat of a leader of your business, you need to find those cool new boots and step into them with a strong purpose.

One thing that can help to do that is to amass a strong team of other women in business who understand and will challenge, support and celebrate you and your success. Women are community oriented and need to connect with other women. Women who will see the strong leader in you!

If you work alone this becomes even more essential.

Does this resonate with you? If it does you and I are on the same wave length!

Do you have a team of women on board to challenge and support you and to offer you really good feedback?

If you are searching and wanting to find that community with a group of other strong entrepreneurs then say YES and make it happen. Take the risk, listen to truth instead of self-doubt and decide you are worth it.

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If you feel a strong YES!

Self-doubt is actually like a parasite that gloms onto your body and short circuits your wiring.

It leaves you feeling confused and off-track.  It is actually a perfect metaphor for Halloween week!

When I began my very first small business many moons ago, I was sure I was the only one who had such huge self-doubts that rumbled around in my head.

I questioned my ability and secretly thought I was a fraud.

At the same time I wanted people to buy my products. I wanted to be successful.  I was like a yoyo.

Some of the ways that self-doubt manifests include:

•  Not knowing how to charge the correct price.
•  Worried that people won’t like your work.
•  Afraid that clients will reject you.
•  Comparing yourself to others who you think are better.
•  Feeling guilty for investing in yourself.
•  Not knowing how to make good decisions.

The list can go on but you get the idea. If you feel even some of the things on this list, your business has got to be suffering. It’s like running a race with your shoe laces tied together. Self-doubt ties you up and then you have to spend all your energy to just not fall over.

Luckily there are cures for this ailment. Are you willing to do whatever it takes?  Are you desperate enough to get help?

1. Find a mastermind group of other small business owners. As you share, you will discover you are not alone. You will also realize that your assumptions are all wrong when you begin to hear from others.

2. Find someone who sees more in you than you see in yourself. That person will challenge you and get you to stop making decisions from your self-doubt. When you are in a low place it can feel very real. Someone else can shake you out of your trance.

3. Develop a business vision/plan based on what your confident-self feels is possible. It might look scary but the plan can over-ride some of the doubts.

4. Begin to notice the two parts of your psyche. One feels unsure and the other feels confident. Focus on doing things to make the confident part larger. This can include the way you dress, how your office feels,  the people you hang out with and more. Choose things that are positive and supportive.

5. Take a risk to do something to invest in yourself. Make it something big. The bigger the risk, the larger the pay off.

By the way, self-doubt is like an addiction. You can gain mastery over it and then you have to keep on doing these five things for the rest of your life.  Are you willing?

Years ago when I was struggling there were times I felt I was missing the entrepreneurial and wealth gene.

I thought if I had only been born into a family of successful people, those mindset values would have been passed down to me and I would automatically be able to make the right decisions, take the correct risks and turn mud into gold.

Maybe you’ve had similar thoughts.

I wondered if my fate was pre-determined by my genes. But there are people like Oprah, who are born into poverty and are able to develop those leadership and traits in themselves by pure determination and focus.

I do think there are some characteristics of an entrepreneurial mindset. They can be developed! One of those is the ability to intuit or trust information or feelings that come to you even if you don’t see any visible truth.

I was moved by this quote by Steve Jobs and it reminded me one of the most important and essential entrepreneurial traits; that aptitude to trust your gut feeling and nurture the ability to listen on those deeper and less visible levels.

“You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something — your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

I got a buzz when I read this because it gave validity to what I know I can do. When I began to trust that those dots would connect, it changed the whole way I ran my business.

I know that what I am doing now and how I do it, will make a difference in the my future and what I did in the past  has helped me to be where I am now. Steve reminded me to strengthen my commitment is to listen more and take heed to what I hear.

Move past your self doubt and begin to trust yourself!

How much do you look connect your dots?
Are you able to trust that those dots will appear in your future?

I would love to hear from you.

I would love to be able to share that it was a “Piece a cake,” to change my website from html to WordPress and that  it was no big deal!  However it would be not telling the real truth.

It was a huge endeavor. I compare it to remodeling a house. I’ve done that as well, and although it wasn’t fun, the end result was so worth it.

I feel the same about this process. I am thrilled with my new site and new look!  It feels great and the fact that it is done and live is the best part!

In the world of the internet, my site was old and out-dated. It was built five years ago and although I updated content and did some other adjustments along the way, the basic look was “old.”  I wanted a more contemporary site and one that reflected my business more authentically.

This new site does all of these things. The good content hasn’t changed but the presentation is now so lovely, the navigation works better, plus lots of new bells and whistles. I would love to have all of your kudos.  Please share anything with me in the comments below. I would so appreciate it!

I am going to share a few things I learned through this process that might help you if you embark on the same journey.

1. Hire the right web developer to make it happen. Don’t pick someone because they are cheaper. Pick someone because they get it, communicate easily,  keep deadlines and will be calm when you are flipping out.

2. Expect to pay more than you planned. An estimate  will state very clearly what it includes, but in truth, you may not  actually understand what that all means that point. (I didn’t, and I am somewhat smart . Until you are immersed in the project, you may not realize you need some extras beyond that estimate. It is just the way it is. It was like that when I built my house too. You have to look at it as an investment in your business that will have a return later.

3. Hire the right person for each part of the job. I wanted to change my site presentation and also improve my logo. Most of the time web developers are not also graphic artists. I hired both and as a result my site is top quality. Don’t skimp as this is such an important investment. The colors on my site were taken from the adobe photo above. It communicates “inspiration,” to me and the hues on my site reflect this energy.

4. Use the process as an opportunity to offer even more wonderful content and help to your niche clients. It’s important to provide ways for people to get involved and find help on every page!

5. I Love some of the new options like the big footer with up-coming events listed and my new blog posts. Things like this were not available five years ago. Check out the cool Facebook updates in the side bar here! Look at other websites and see what works. Think expansively. This is a new opportunity.

I especially give thanks to Jocelyn Mozak who built this site and was so  easy to work with, and Kathleen Krushas who was a master at designing the presentation. What a powerful team! Let me know if I can help any of you through this process. I have learned so much in this experience.  I invite you to look at every page and  thanks so much for leaving your comments below.

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How to take an idea and turn it into a business is exciting and also overwhelming.

Having a service that you love and you know helps people, is just a tiny piece of the puzzle. In fact, it is even smaller than tiny.

A strong business requires good products and services but that alone won’t create a lucrative business.

Do these three things and watch what happens!

1. Plant seeds. Make sure you have seeds that are healthy, perfect for your climate and will grow easily in abundance. Do you want to have a bigger, more lucrative business?. Make sure you plant seeds that are the best ones, perfect for your garden and will grow easily in abundance.

Plant a variety of seeds so you have many beautiful plants that work together to grow a large, prosperous garden. Some may not work out, but others will take off. Your seeds are your products and services and fulfill a burning need for your customers.Your seeds are also your business systems that once are in place will have strong roots and provide stability.

2. Weed your garden. Let go of plants that are using up all the energy and nutrients but not providing the garden you want. Pull them out by the roots and let go of your attachment to them. Throw them in the compost and allow them to transform and leave your garden space open for the seeds you really want to grow.

Weeds will strangle your business if you don’t keep them pulled out. They can  be clutter, poor money management, attachment to services that don’t work, and poor habits.

3. Fertilize and water. Nurture your garden with loving help and focused decisions. Use the best fertilizers and remember to water them as needed. If you don’t have time, hire a gardener to help.

In your business this can involved investing in support services, a bookkeeper, coach, assistant or mastermind group. It can mean taking the time to do the tasks that are important but not urgent, like creating your marketing plan and following it, doing strategic planning and keeping things in order.

If you do all three of these things, your garden will grow abundantly and you will have prosperity plants and provide beautiful help to many, many people.