Jul 02 2014
Maybe you are like I’ve been and have wasted so much energy and time holding yourself back, feeling not good enough, not perfect enough, and not trusting yourself to take risks.
If this is you, you are like most women who are held back from a lack of confidence and self-doubt.
When I think back at all the hours I wasted worrying about whether I was good enough or comparing myself to others who I thought were better, I cringe!
What a waste of energy when I could have been so productive in my business and doing the good work I was meant to do in the world.
You might watch yourself being afraid to do something until you are 100% sure its right – whatever that is. The problem is, it never feels right enough and no matter how sure you are, there is always someone who will not like it.
The irony is that when you run a business, you have to take risks, experiment, be seen, speak out; all those things that challenge your confidence. Sometimes you have to be messy and “good enough!”
Unfortunately it is a part of our inculturation as females that we we tend to internalize mistakes, thinking we aren’t smart enough or we are a disappointment to someone. This can really slow you down because running a business involves “mistakes” every day!
What I have been teaching entrepreneurs all these years is to be authentic, show up fully in whatever you are doing now, even if you don’t know it’s your real life purpose.
Eventually everything you do will integrate and make you the amazing person you are.
Be comfortable with yourself, who you are and what you stand for and your strengths will help you attract more clients and be noticed by joint venture partners.
The important thing is to take action and step in fully or your business will stay small and never grow to its potential.
So, I am going to run a “confidence challenge” to help women to take action and support each other in the process.
I want you all to shine in the world and make your businesses rock and bring in that cash flow you know you deserve!
One thing that does help women is to have a support group!
I want to end this post with a secret for you!
The older you get, the easier it is to get past all your self-doubts and other cr__p. Not sure why, but when I turned 60 it all started to melt away. I began to trust my intrinsic wisdom and inner knowing; my strength and power.
Maybe the change in hormones maybe I just didn’t care anymore if I messed up. All I know is most women in my age group experience this shift in their 60s. Maybe we are just warn out from holding ourselves back!
However, you don’t have to wait until then. Everything you do now will support that shift.
Here are a few questions for you to consider:
1. In what ways do you keep yourself and your business small?
2. If you had super-woman level of confidence what would you do differently right now?
3. If you could substitute your self-doubt for one other thing, what would that be?
4. Can you imagine the freedom that would come from having less self-doubt and more self-assurance?
I would to hear your responses and join me on July 15th for a free training on: